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.5 Oct 2026 5 min readThe most common question people ask me about domestic abuse - and why the answer is complicated
To help a mate stuck in domestic abuse, expect defensiveness and plant seeds – the empathy gap, masculinity codes, testosterone and loyalty explain why.
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.28 Sept 2026 5 min readWintery burnout - are you ready?
Winter brings less daylight, bigger bills, loneliness and temptation, so here are seven habits I use to protect my wellbeing through the darker months.
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.21 Sept 2026 5 min read'These Men Do' - Louis Theroux's sequel to 'Inside the Manosphere'?
TV about the manosphere gets the attention, but we have an empathy gap and rarely celebrate men – we need to showcase positive male role models.
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.14 Sept 2026 5 min readKnow your 'WHY' - it's great advice, but what if your 'WHY' becomes a millstone round your neck?
A big 'WHY' can become a millstone when progress is slow – motivation comes from seeing progress today and believing more is possible.
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.7 Sept 2026 2 min readHonestly Dad: Masculinity, Connection and 3 groups of dads at risk
My new keynote on fatherhood covers why dads matter, why it's so challenging today and three groups of dads at increased risk.
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.31 Aug 2026 5 min readYou're not coping and your options are limited, so how do you manage burnout?
When you can't change your life, accepting specific truths helps: social media is everyone's best bits, everyone is winging it, and life is about seasons.
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.24 Aug 2026 5 min readAt-risk dads: why parenting teenagers is like navigating a minefield
Dads of teenagers are an at-risk group: five things I've learned parenting teens, first with my daughters and now with three boys.
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.10 Aug 2026 4 min readWhy didn't you hit her back?
Why I didn't hit back when my ex attacked me, and why talk about domestic abuse shouldn't assume men are the perpetrators and women the victims.
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.20 Jul 2026 3 min readAre men struggling? Why are men struggling? And how do we help?
My book Honestly, Man asks whether men are struggling, why, and how we help – from masculinity and the empathy gap to fatherhood and men's communities.
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.13 Jul 2026 3 min readI'm getting less done in this heat - and I don't feel bad about it
In a heatwave I get less done, and I don't feel bad about it – why we should manage our expectations and pace ourselves in the heat.
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.6 Jul 2026 6 min readAre we less sympathetic to struggling men? And if we are - so what?
Research suggests we're less sympathetic to struggling men than to women in the same situation – why that matters, and how we close the empathy gap.
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.29 Jun 2026 3 min readThe burnout risk hidden inside every change programme
Change isn't a neat curve but a messy splat, and there's no stage where the risk of burnout disappears – what that means for leaders managing change.
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.22 Jun 2026 7 min readCourageous conversations & men: how to get them started and why they matter
Conversations save lives: my neighbour's three-part approach – I care, direct dialogue, I'm here – shows how to start one with a man you're worried about.
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.15 Jun 2026 4 min readIf you're already overwhelmed but have a goal to complete, do this:
How I wrote a book while maxed out, with 30 minutes a day for a year – and three tips for finishing a goal when you're overwhelmed.
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.8 Jun 2026 5 min readSir Gareth Southgate is spot-on: some of the difference between girls and boys behaviour is down to nature not nurture
Gareth Southgate is right that some differences between boys and girls are down to nature, and that should shape how we teach and parent them.
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.1 Jun 2026 6 min readTough talk won't solve burnout, but C.A.R. might
Tough talk breeds resentment and risks repeat burnout; what helps is C.A.R. – compassionate conversation, action and reframing rest as an investment.
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.18 May 2026 6 min readWhy my man code kept me silently stuck in domestic abuse (and how I changed it)
My unwritten rules about being a man kept me stuck in domestic abuse – how I rewrote them into a broader, lighter man code.
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.11 May 2026 5 min readWhen life sucks and the future looks bleak, how do you find hope?
When generic advice irritates, the Progress Principle helps: small steps in meaningful work lift motivation, so notice and celebrate each day's progress.
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.5 May 2026 8 min readWhy the housing crisis is a missing piece for men's mental health - but not an easy one to fit in place
The housing crisis is a missing piece in men's mental health: I look at why it may hit young men hardest, what caused it and what might help.
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.27 Apr 2026 5 min readResilience Without False Positivity: The Stockdale Principle in action
The Stockdale Paradox: accept how tough things are today but never lose hope you'll prevail – encouragement for teams without false positivity.
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.20 Apr 2026 6 min readMen and therapy: why it's not your fault if it didn't help - and what to do instead.
If counselling didn't work for you, it's not your fault – communication styles, testosterone and too few male counsellors may all play a part.
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.30 Mar 2026 6 min readJimmy Carr is right: when positive role models are absent, negative influencers move in
I welcome Jimmy Carr's comments on the manosphere: influencers chase engagement, and the fix needs commitment, cash and open minds.
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.16 Mar 2026 6 min readMen's networks: it's a no-brainer, right?
Five lessons from men who built men's communities: it takes time, ask directly, prove community matters, allow variety and be ready to let go.
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.2 Mar 2026 4 min readThe Testosterone Crisis: men's levels are in decline and it's not just bad news for libidos and biceps
Men's testosterone is falling at every age, mostly due to lifestyle, and the risks go well beyond libido – the good news is that in most cases, it's reversible.
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.16 Feb 2026 2 min readFatherhood: it's less about treats and gifts, more about the connection (and protecting it)
Connection with your kids happens in everyday moments like bedtime or the drive to football – find where it's already happening and protect it.
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.9 Feb 2026 4 min readFrom overwhelmed father with a tonne of excuses, to mover and shaker - 3 hacks have revolutionised my life
Three hacks that help me follow through as an overwhelmed working father: treat slips as temporary, have an Option B, and use a shoehorn step.
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.2 Feb 2026 2 min readBEWARE: Lord of the Flies is soon to air on the BBC!
Before the BBC's Lord of the Flies stirs talk of toxic masculinity, remember it's fiction – the real boys marooned on an island looked after each other.
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.26 Jan 2026 4 min readWhy the family courts is a key part of addressing men's mental health
Family courts are an emotional pressure cooker, and employers serious about men's mental health need to talk about them – four action points.
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